Where Focus Goes Energy Flows – How to Get Back to Center When You Feel Like You Can’t Get Your Life Together

Do you ever feel ALL OVER THE PLACE? Like you need to do a serious life audit to get your shit together?

I’m gonna be real honest here. I feel overwhelmed. Overwhelmed to the point where I’m at a loss of words because I feel so frazzled. The littlest things set me off and I find myself apologizing for snapping more than I would like to admit. I’m working at such a high level that the last thing I care about is what to make for dinner. If I can remember to put the clothes in the dryer after forgetting to switch the load for the 3rd time it’s a good day. Why is it when I’m excelling at work my personal life is flipped upside down and vice versa? From a mile high view, things may appear differently. In fact, it may look like I’m managing more than just fine. HA!

We’re all a work in progress, right?

The reality is I feel disorganized and spread thin. I’ve been running a million miles a minute trying to maintain top sales at my company, stay fit, plan a wedding, create content, be a homemaker, and launch a new tech company. Meet Hashtag.

Wearing multiple hats has always been something I’ve been inherently good at, but lately I have a fucking lot on my plate. Admittedly, I bring on most of it myself and I’m NOT COMPLAINING.. just venting to you guys I guess.

*btw* planning a wedding is no joke. It can easily consume your whole day (relatable…?) I don’t want to consider myself a bride-zilla but let’s just call a spade a spade. I thought I was able to manage everything on my own but it’s really a lot of work- especially if you’re having a destination wedding. I’ll give you guys a wedding update soon but we are leaning towards hiring a wedding planner so I can focus on other priorities.

But back to my point:

I think it’s very easy to work ourselves up when life gets busy instead of tactfully managing it.

I received a much needed reminder yesterday that things happen FOR us not TO us.

Am I a tad bit anxious over the cost of this wedding that’s slowly costing a small fortune? fuck yea. But instead of second guessing our decision and feeling stressed out everyday I’m going to embrace it. Shift my perspective from feeling insufficient to feeling EMPOWERED. How lucky am I that we are afforded the ability to pay for the wedding of our dreams and I get to marry the most amazing man on earth?!

When you shift your energy, opportunities come knocking on your door. Nobody wants to work with you when your energy is blocked and you close yourself off.

Quick funny story- I met this unbelievable spiritual healer in Aspen when we went skiing 2 years ago. Her name is Barbara Marks and she works with some of the highest profile clients out there. Like she was BONE CHILLING good. I can’t even begin to explain the specificity of what she forecasted and how accurate it was even down to the timeline. If you’re ever in CO I highly highly recommend getting a reading from her. I wouldn’t necessarily peg her as a psychic who looks into a crystal ball and reads you your fortune, but rather an energy mover. I know you’re rolling your eyes probably screaming “hocus pocus” but I swear by her abilities. I have kept in touch and Skype with her periodically especially during transitional periods to help clear any blockage or negative energy in my life. BUT ANYWAY, about 6 months ago she told me I had some heavy blockage and it was imperative I received a cleanse or else I was going to face tumultuous terrain over the next couple of months. After agreeing to have her order rocks from Brazil so she can start the cleanse, she told me it was $88.50 so I read her off my credit card number. Seconds later I received a text message on my phone asking if I authorize a charge of EIGHT THOUSAND FIFTY DOLLARS and I immediately had her cancel the order. I couldn’t believe how expensive it was to get this cleanse and simply couldn’t warrant the cost- reasonably speaking. The craziest part is the clients she works with pay it without blinking an eye because she has such a proven track record of success. She’s literally made people fortunes. To this day I wonder if only I got the cleanse…..

When you feel like you’re stuck in mud and things aren’t jiving you should get yourself re-aligned back to center. I ended up doing much cheaper polarity therapy which helps unblock the flow of energy by polarized contacts throughout the body. Country Village Chemists is such an exceptional hidden gem located in Huntington, NY. Maybe I’ll do a separate post on polarity therapy if you are interested in hearing more about its amazing healing benefits.

Anyway,  I needed grounding. To “turn-off” and find balance.

I reflected, and reflected some more.

Every single feeling I have is entirely up to me. It is my choice to attach positive or negative thoughts to my emotions.

Here’s a twisted example but a powerful one. Imagine witnessing an accident and the victim cannot be saved. Most of us discern death as a sad and tragic event but Mother Theresa saw it differently. She believed it was a blessing to be present during someone’s final moments as their spirit crossed over to heaven. We view death as the end of one’s life whereas Mother Theresa saw it as new beginnings. Interesting how the exact same event can have 2 completely different meanings depending on perspective.

Next time instead of feeling overwhelmed because I’m dealing with too many problems I’ll feel grateful that I get the opportunity to deal with problems. Facing adversity will make you stronger and more capable than you were before.

We all have choices everyday when we wake up and it’s up to YOU if you want to have a ball of shit attitude or if you want to be grateful and live your life to its fullest potential.

Where focus goes, energy flows.

Focus on what you’re good at, focus on the qualities that make you the best version of yourself. Don’t waste time stressing over things you can’t control. Shift your attitude by having gratitude you get to be in charge over your life, no one else.

With that being said, I’m going to light my Himalayan salt lamp, read a badass book and prepare for some BIG NEWS that I may be able to share with you guys soon!

If you made it to the end, thank you for letting me spill my guts.